I’ve witnessed both sides of the infidelity coin. I’ve known friends that had affairs and I have had a husband that has cheated on me. I realize now, how painful it is to be on receiving end of infidelity.
When I was in my late teens, I had very traditional values. Things were either right or they were not. Looking back now, I have to admit I was very judgmental. I had never been involved in anything that could be considered a serious relationship, yet I thought I knew everything.
If a girlfriend had come to me back then and asked me what she should do about a boy who had cheated on her, I would have said “dump him. If she had not done it, I would have stood by her as a friend, but would secretly think that she was either stupid or crazy. I grew up though and my outlook changed.
My ages old friend told me this when I asked for her story about her cheating:
If you ask me now why I cheated, I can’t come up with anything better than I was young, dumb and careless with others feelings. I was unhappy in my relationship, but felt that I couldn’t express it to him. I took the easy way out and lived to regret it at the end of the day, when I looked in the mirror and saw someone I could no longer respect. It shocked me when I thought how easy it was to make that mistake. A lingering look, a touch, a kiss was enough to unravel a relationship that I only realized I wanted after it ended, with two broken hearts. He still won’t talk to me now or return my phone calls or emails.
I can relate to her feelings to an extent, because I too, remember an evening when someone I cared for deeply looked me in the eye and said, “I slept with another girl”. Even now, a long time after it has occurred, I cringe at the thought. I’ll never forget the very moment when I was told, and I will remember it for as long as I live. “How, how do you do this to someone?” is all I could think.
I certainly did want to know ‘how’, along with ‘was she prettier, better, great in bed’…how did she compare? What did they do? Where did they do it? Most importantly – why? These are all tormenting questions. Some should definitely be answered, others are sometimes best left alone.
My first instinct had been to tell him to screw off and never step foot on my doorstep again. I’m glad I didn’t now, but for some, telling him that your husband needs to go away may be the best thing that ever happened to them. It’s one of those situations where you don’t know until you are living it.
It’s very important that you know the truth about your relationship. Not knowing the truth can be much more torturous that actually knowing what has happened.
Is he cheating…
Behaving strangely?
Acting secretively?
Displaying the signs of a cheater?
Let’s not kid each other.
You think he is a cheater and you probably recognized some of the signs.
Are fooling yourself thinking…
“Infidelity can’t happen to me.”
“He could never do that to me.”
The sad truth of the matter is that your husband just might be having an affair.
Trust yourself and find out if he is really having an affair.
You have the rest of your life to live and you shouldn’t live it with a cheater!
Catch a cheating husband with me!
I want to help.
